Oringial posting published on 7/1/08
This weekend I watched as one of my best friends and brother got married. It was beautiful! To watch two people who love each other commit their relationship to God and long for his blessings on their family is awesome.
It made me reflect on my own marriage. I have been with my husband for 10 years and married for 6. That is a long time! It has not been an easy journey. We have had good times and bad times. We have loved each other and we have hurt each other. We have learned about true love and commitment.
So here is some advice to all newly weds based on what God has shown us in our marriage:
• Put God first in your marriage. Learn to pray daily about everything together.
• Be merciful to one another and forgive quickly! Remember that our heavenly father is constantly forgiving us. Don’t harbor anger. Let it go and allow God to heal your hurt. (Matt 6:14, Mark 11:25-26)
• Be patient with one another and remember you married your spouse for who they are. Let God be the one to change them. Try not to do the Holy Spirit’s job. (This one is tough for me..lol)
• Be willing to adapt to one another. It does not always have to be your way. Marriage is about learning to submit to one another.
• Husbands, often times wives have a fear of submitting to you, however if your wife sees you submitting your life to God she will feel more secure submitting to you. She will know that you are seeking God and will trust your decisions.
• Wives respect your husbands even when you don’t think he deserves it. Lift him up and encourage him. You will see that he will respond by giving you the love you desire from him.
• Live within your means. Stay away from credit card debt and overspending. The enemy will try to get you enslaved to debt because he knows that financial stress can cause extreme martial problems and can even lead to divorce.
• Use wisdom when seeking advice. Seek godly counsel from those who love the Lord and long to please Him.
There are many good Christian books and teachings to help you have a better marriage. I have included some below. Although I have not read all of them I enjoy the teachings of these writers and they have helped me in my marriage. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
and The Power of a Praying Wife
were life changing books for me. I pray that one of the books below would be just what you were needing.
It made me reflect on my own marriage. I have been with my husband for 10 years and married for 6. That is a long time! It has not been an easy journey. We have had good times and bad times. We have loved each other and we have hurt each other. We have learned about true love and commitment.
So here is some advice to all newly weds based on what God has shown us in our marriage:
• Put God first in your marriage. Learn to pray daily about everything together.
• Be merciful to one another and forgive quickly! Remember that our heavenly father is constantly forgiving us. Don’t harbor anger. Let it go and allow God to heal your hurt. (Matt 6:14, Mark 11:25-26)
• Be patient with one another and remember you married your spouse for who they are. Let God be the one to change them. Try not to do the Holy Spirit’s job. (This one is tough for me..lol)
• Be willing to adapt to one another. It does not always have to be your way. Marriage is about learning to submit to one another.
• Husbands, often times wives have a fear of submitting to you, however if your wife sees you submitting your life to God she will feel more secure submitting to you. She will know that you are seeking God and will trust your decisions.
• Wives respect your husbands even when you don’t think he deserves it. Lift him up and encourage him. You will see that he will respond by giving you the love you desire from him.
• Live within your means. Stay away from credit card debt and overspending. The enemy will try to get you enslaved to debt because he knows that financial stress can cause extreme martial problems and can even lead to divorce.
• Use wisdom when seeking advice. Seek godly counsel from those who love the Lord and long to please Him.
There are many good Christian books and teachings to help you have a better marriage. I have included some below. Although I have not read all of them I enjoy the teachings of these writers and they have helped me in my marriage. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
and The Power of a Praying Wife were life changing books for me. I pray that one of the books below would be just what you were needing.
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4 comments:
What a beautiful couple, and that girls is lucky she got a hottie like that!.... lol its me (brother from the wedding) and this posting is SOOOO TRUEE! Focus your marriage on biblical principles, put God first because he will never let us down.. and realize that when one or the other messes up or makes a bad decision, they are not perfect... thats why we have Jesus! I try to live by these principles each day, and though my marriage is far from "perfect" (like there is such a thing) we are happy, we love each other and we love God with all our hearts.. He has even blessed us with our third child together...
Father God- Thank You for giving us instructions in life and marriage. Help me and my wife to rely on you more each day, because you will never let us down. Refine us and make us more like you. Help me to love my wife the way you love us.. In Jesus precious name- AMEN!
Amen!
Thank you for your comment Bro..your funny. lol..
Thanks for posting this.
I am on the road to getting married and this helped me. I'm going to check out one of the books u posted to learn more. keep me in ur prayers so that God can teach me how to be a good wife and helper.
Your welcome..May the Lord give the heart of a servant, a willingness to submit to your husband just as you submit to Christ Jesus, and may you be filled with patience, understanding, and longsuffering. Blessings to you and your marriage..
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