A Perfect Marriage

A perfect marriage? Is there such a thing? No it’s impossible. An imperfect woman and an imperfect man who get married do not equal a perfect marriage. All too often we deceive ourselves into thinking that marriage is supposed to be easy and not so much work. We see these movies about love and living happily ever after, but life is so much more complicated than these fairytale love stories we see in the movies. The truth is that marriage is hard work. We have to choose daily to lovingly submit one to another. We have to learn to discuss life’s issues such as raising the children, financial responsibilities, work issues, ministry issues, and so much more; all while trying not to allow these conversations to turn into unnecessary arguments.

Anyone who has been married for quite some time will know that what I am saying is true and this is nothing new to them. My husband and I have been together for almost eleven years and I know that we will be together for eleven plus more. I trust that the Lord will continue the good work that He has started in our marriage until the day He returns to bring us home.

I just want to encourage you if you are in a difficult season in your marriage that you are not alone. There are many others that are going through the same thing. The enemy will inevitably attack out marriages. He is determined to tear families apart and hinder the work that the Lord is doing in our lives. He wants our children to be left broken and confused by the affects of divorce. The deceiver would have us believe that perhaps we would be happier without our other half. Don’t believe the lies.

We must stay encouraged and keep pressing forward no matter what lies the enemy brings to us. We mustn’t get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. The Lord is faithful to fulfill His promise to care for us and to help us when we are weak, we just have to enter into His presence and ask for help. He will not leave us or forsake us. He has to be the Source of our marriages’ strength. (Galatians 6:9)

My own marriage has been under attack since the day we made that covenant before God and said till death do us part. I am sure the enemy was heated that day. That was the day we became a tripled-braided cord. Ever since that beautiful day we have not been easily broken. The Holy Spirit has been that strong part of the cord that keeps us binded together. At times when we have felt like we just can’t go any further the Spirit of God reminds us that He has ordained this marriage for such a time as this. It was His purpose and plan that we be together and serve Him side by side. What God has joined together let no man separate. (Ecclesiastes 4:12, Mark 10:9)

Trust the Lord with your marriage. Give Him every concern, complaint, or burden that you are carrying. He wants you to cast all of your cares on Him. Pray together. Pray for one another. Pray as family. Don’t allow bitterness to root itself in your heart or it will hinder your love for your spouse. Listen to one another and remember that the two of you have become one so it’s ok that you are different. That was the point. You were made to compliment one another. Where one is weak the other will be strong. When one falls the other is there is to lift them up. When our Lord created our spouse He had us in mind.

So remember that when your marriage has to pass through the waters, God will be with you. When you have to walk through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire (and you will), you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you. These are meant to perfect your marriage. (Isaiah 43:2)